Say NO, when you want to instead of saying Yes
A lot of people in today’s world live in unhealthy relationships. They keep compromising on things, which they should not. Compromising on such things makes people depressed. They compromise with their partner, friends, at their workplace, and even in their family. They do things that they don’t want to do but still, they do. They wanted to say NO, but they said yes to that thing because they were hesitant to say NO. They didn’t want to make other people feel uncomfortable. They didn’t want to break other’s hearts. By doing all these favors to other people they break their own heart, they get uncomfortable by themselves. In today's world, it's very common that people go into depression just to satisfy other people.
How to say NO to your Partner
In a relationship, people face many problems, and to resolve these problems they compromise. Compromising to some limit is good. It makes a relationship to survive, but when you start compromising a lot, there you feel isolated. For example, if you like some sport, and you want to watch it, but your partner refuses, and says let's watch a movie. If you like to meet your friends, but your partner refuses. You can say NO to all these demands but if you say yes and stop being you then you are in trouble. There’s the problem. He or She wants to control you. They want to change you, But if they don’t want you to be you, then changing yourself isn’t a solution. You should talk with your partner, if they understand you that's well and good, and if they don’t then move on.
How to Say NO to your Friends
Friends are the people who stay with us through our thicks and thins. They are the people who comfort us, who support us, and with them, we enjoy the most. We travel together. We play together. And we make plans together. But sometimes we have to say NO to our friends in order to avoid unnecessary anxiety and stress. If we are at home and enjoying our time watching a movie or cooking some food and we receive a text from our friend let's hang out and party together. But you are not in the mood to go and you want to stay at home. Just say NO, I am not coming, I want to spend some more time at home. But if you say Yes, because you don’t want to hurt your friend and you don’t want to ruin their plans. Here you ruin your mental peace and comfort. Here you ruin yourself just to make others feel good.
How to say NO at your Workplace
Many of us work from 9 to 5 for straight five days a week. We bear a huge burden of work day in day out. So at weekends, we get time to enjoy and rest. We get time to spend with our loved ones. And when someone asks to take their work or help them out, we should say NO, straight but in a polite way. We should learn to refuse to take on someone's work or to work for some extra time at the employer's request. It happens with many of us in daily life that some of our colleagues ask us to help them out or take on their work because they have to leave for some urgent work. It also happens our Boss requests us to work for an extra hour or work on weekends to complete some important task or file. People who know how to avoid the extra burden can make any excuse and enjoy a healthy way of life. But people who simply say Yes, they disturb their life, their routine, and their plans. If someone had planned a trip with their family, partner or friends on weekend, but their boss asks them to work on the weekend, they should not hesitate and should refuse to work in a polite manner. If they say Yes, their plan on weekend will be ruined and this can push someone into depression or anxiety. To avoid such consequences we should learn to say NO, this can help us live a better life of happiness and peace.
How to say No to your Family
Family is the top priority for many of us. We say No, to our friends or colleagues just to stay with our family. But there are times when we have to say NO, to our family. If someone's family asks them for a dinner outside tonight, but they have to deliver some important file to their boss or to prepare for their exam. They should say No, but many of us say Yes. At that time it doesn't bother them a lot, but when they face the dire consequences of it they get worried. They think I should have refused to go and should have completed my work. But now it is not of any use to cry over split milk. At the time of saying NO, we all feel resentment and guilt, but when we get the outcome we all feel good. So we should learn to respect our boundaries and limits and we should not breach them. We should follow our timetables strictly and we should never displease ourselves just to please someone else.